ok.. i just reread your sitch and it made me think of my in-laws. they were married for 32 yrs but FIL had cheated a couple of times during their relationship. but they always managed to stay together. FIL is a very social person.. loves to go out.. very affectionate. MIL more reserved.. homebody.. more distant.

anyway.. about 6 yrs ago FIL was diagnosed w/ prostate cancer and went all weird. he was upset because MIL and he weren't having sex.. he started seeing another women.. lied through his teeth about it! they ended up separating because she had had enough. when hey separated, MIL became a different person. travelled.. went to vegas.. took helicopter tour.. and then my FIL suddenly took noticed and said.. how come she's doing all these things now but when we were together she would never go anywhere?

and then he pursued pursued pursued.. trying to get back together w/ her saying he made a mistake. i think he also finally saw the loss of "the family" because H and i use to go over and visit.. have tea.. play cards etc. but by then it was too late. because she had met someone else and didn't want to put up w/ him anymore.

i guess my point is.. what are you doing to GAL?

Me:38.. H:33.
Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3
M:8.. together for 11.
Bomb dropped:10/17/11
Separated:11/07/11