Is this cake eating 4

[BklynMom]

I can certainly relate to your visions of Sylvia Plath. But when I have those negative thoughts I imagine my own girls when they graduate from college or on their wedding days and I see myself so happy and proud no matter where their father is.

This journey will be longer than we could possible imagine. Celebrate what you are blessed with. Beautiful kids.

His ideas of being separated but not quite D and coming over all the time, its so strange. My H has similar ideas. I dont get it. Do they think being D is like being married, you have your exW aka the bitch take care of all the things you want her to but stay out of everything else and free up more time to act like a child.

I dont have any words of wisdom but from following your thread my gut says your H needs to hit rock rock bottom before he crawls out. He is not gonna see the problem with what he has done till he has nothing left. Sometimes I question whether DBing protects the WAS too much from seeing the reality of their actions. We are too nice.

HAng in there. Find some comfort in knowing you are not the only one out there dealing with a crazy H. It is not you. It was not you.