Deb,

So glad to hear that my comment about being "an open book" has opened your eyes.

I believe that we forfeit some of our mystique when we bare it all.

Also, from where I stand, I got the feeling that my H viewed the 'quiet' handling of my difficulties, as a sign of strength and independence.

But, remember in all of this, IT TAKES TIME for the results to manifest.

Jeannine