He wants a divorce, I don't

[purgatory]

We've all heard the confident comments from the WAS, and I KNOW how much that hurts. Mine said those exact words and added: "if you were hotter, I could probably deal with the anger, but there's just nothing attractive about you anymore"..... 3 months later he's checking me out when I walk away and hangs out with me by choice. He still seems like he's wanting to move forward with the D, but we don't talk about it everyday.

The one thing that that I've learned through all this is that "things never stay the same", positively or negatively.

There's a member hopefull123 whose H said the same things 8 months ago, now they are piecing... Anything is possible.

You have just started your journey, don't assume that anything is permanent (I mean, didn't we learn that lesson about our M's??)

Read around these boards, there are tons of us who have heard the same words, and we've managed to keep going. Read my early threads (back in December) and you'll see that I was just where you are: hopeless. Right now, you have to let yourself move through the stages of grief. Let yourself cry and get angry, but over time, you'll notice that you recover quicker and quicker. It took me about 2 weeks to stop crying everyday, and about 2 months before I really started DBing.

Its only over when you say it is!