Yes the apologizing and asking what's wrong is a pattern. If she keeps at it long enough, she convinces me something must be wrong and we eventually discuss that, so what I've "trained" her is that if I don't offer something up it's because I'm hiding something.

I caught onto that and have NOT been offering up a "what's wrong" in response. Instead I'll just change the subject and talk about something which makes me happy and that has the effect of not seeming like something is wrong!

Crazy, in my situation some of the things I'm doing are the opposite of what MC 101 would tell you to do. I think it's kind of funny that way. "Be less intimate, if something is wrong don't talk about it, don't look to work through things together, just figure out how to deal with them on your own, etc. etc."

That's the last type of marital advice you'd expect to receive. It's definitely the graduate course.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015