Quote: So instead of taking my 'feelings' to my H...I take them to my keyboard. I've spent countless hours writing fast and furiously as a sort of 'time-out', disciplinary technique over my unruly kids - rage, fear and anxiety. I wish they'd grow up and leave home. Brats!
Yes! I've done the same... after all this time I have books... and have logged plenty of deleted, never-sent emails. Writing it all down has helped me to hold it together too, to remember the line between him and I, to take responsibility for and understand my own feelings and to be able to communicate productively with my H when the opportunities have come up. I've shared a great deal with him, actually. Of course, for a long time I took the feelings to the keyboard AND to the H too, but I finally learned to stop doing that except on the rare occasions when it makes sense. Some of us are slow learners in that arena.
