btw, i'm also still struggling with the concept of "detaching." I think i've been able to "act as if" i've detached (except for some instances where i've backslid a bit), but how do i mentally detach? because H is on my mind CONSTANTLY, and i'm constantly in mental fix-it mode. i won't tell him this or act on a lot of my impulses, but its hard. i feel like in order to truly detach, i'd have to let go of H mentally as well. how do i do this? i've been trying to just plain suppress my thoughts, and it hasnt been working too well. any other ideas?
