Hugs DG... I know that's why I've stayed away for a while too... when you have enough heartbreak in your own heart it's hard to see so much from everyone else. It's also depressing to come back and see so many new stories.
Sorry for the serving... no, it's a not a surprise but still hurts. Then again it's just a legal framework for the current reality. Just as marriage is simply a legal framework for the reality at that time. Both can be done and undone (and done and undone and done and undone:) ).
My W hasn't mentioned filing since she moved out. Yesterday via email she did. I simply handed over the details of the 401k division to her and gave her the three options we had for getting that resolved. Told her she is free to do whatever and I would pay half if there is a cost. So now it is in her hands. It felt good to let go of that last piece of control. But I don't look forward to actually signing the papers.
C'est la vie.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
