FWIW
Consider the fact that her unworthiness may be a form of manipulation. I was reading a blog where the poster said something along the lines of:

You complain about my behavior, which means you are unhappy with me, it saddens me that you are unhappy with me, how dare you make me sad!!

See how she verbally outmaneuvered him?

I get the impression your W pulls the same on you, and distracts you from the true issue at heart. (her behavior).