Denial....its not just a river in Egypt...

[imthemom]

I am at a loss VC...I know there is nothing I can do to make him step up and be a father to his only son, but watching my S15 suffer the way he is, its tareing me up!!.. When we went fishing yesterday S15 and I had a lot of time to talk and he openly admitted that he did it to get his Ds attention..and then said "i guess he doesnt care what I do"....even after his D told him about his gf and S15 is still saying he just wants his D to come home. The other night we were sitting on his bed talking about school and my phone was going off in the kitchen, I ignored it and he said "what if its D wanting to say he is sorry and wants to come back?"..I was speechless...

I am so freaken angry!!!....what kind of a person can do this to his son?????....time after time I have spoken to him and let him know how this is effecting our son and he keeps making promises and saying he knows he needs to step up and then EVERY time he gets a chance to make it right with his son he just blatantly turns his head and doesnt even care!!!!!

He FINALLY, after 24 hrs...sent me a text last night saying please have S15 call me...i responded with "you should have called last night"...his response was "yeah, i probabley should have".......PROBABLEY???????!!!!!! PROBABLEY?????!!!!!!
omg i could just scream...my last response was this...You, a person with a history of substance abuse, think you "probabley" should have called when you hear that your 15 yr old son has done drugs for the first time....you really should think through that...

I am truly on my own with this parenting thing, and I am now beginning to think he is doing our S15 a huge favor. His example of what a man should be is not one I wish my S to have...
part of me wishes he would stop with all the last gasp efforts and just go away, let him get over it and move on. I have other men (brothers, S28, friends) who would be more then happy to step up and fill his shoes...there not that big anyways....