Today W woke up early today and the kids were asleep. Some small talk and I said I really hate this, you are a zombie to me, told her that I miss talking to her, hate having to sit with her and not be able to talk like we normally do. Said she can't help it, she wants to be in "love" with the person she is with.
I told her that I can't change how she feels, but feelings can and do change. We then started to talk about finances and how messed up they were. She had bounced her checking account 12 times this last six months. Really fealt like sh*t because I never new this or the extent of the money problems. Told her that she needs to talk to me about them. Offered to take over the bills, she said they were a mess and did not know where to start, but did not say no.
She is worried that the "changes" are only temporary and will soon pass. I said that I am sorry she feels that way, but this time alone has made me reflect on how I have been treating the kids and family. That my relationship with the children is better and that either way they are better off now that they were. W stated that they have been much better behaved and that it was nice that it was not all her. While I have been coming home I may have been here, but logged into work does not do her much help. Told her that I am realizing how exhausting this could be and that I appreciate all she does.
Wanted to to tell her that it took a long time to get here and that it would take a long time to get out.
We then just proceeded to talk, like we used to. S10 then wakes up and is sick. W is worried since she can't miss work, told her that it was not a problem that I could work from home today. Starting to take care of him. D6 woke up and is now sick, called W and said that I am not good at this stuff and that I could use your help, she said that's ok, W talked to my D for a diagnosis. I then thanked her for her help.
I am now working at home taking care of them. Should I expect a back step now from the W?
