Tad, Your xw is projecting on to your son about you. As for the cheating comments she made to your son, state the facts to him and then let it drop. She is trying everything she can to get a reaction out of you and also make you look like the bad guy. You do not need to justify/defend your past to anyone. The best thing to do is ignore the comments because eventually, everyone will see the truth. The truth will come out in the wash, so to speak.
As for her complaining about child support, well...she brought this on herself. The law is the law and since your son is living w/you, she should be paying some type of child support. It's all about her and she doesn't want to spend on cent more than she has to in order to help you out. Trust me, she is not only going to be a career student, but she's going to be in debt up to her eyeballs and soon.
BTW, I do hope that you have had a discussion w/your son about saying anything about you or what you are doing in her presence. They have a way of getting information out of the children and they don't even realize that they've talked about the other parent. You might want to re-emphasize this w/your son.
I'm sorry about your finances, but you'll get it together...it all takes time. You have a lot on your plate and with the bankruptcy, you could be feeling a bit depressed about it. Take it one day at a time and don't plan too far into the future. One last thing...again...ignore her comments...she is trying to justify what she did, make you look bad in the eyes of your son as well as get a reaction out of you. Don't fuel her fire!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
