It was more like she was at 5 and I went to 4, then she briefly went to 6, I came up to 5, and then she went down to 3.
Staying at 5 seems to tell her "you're not worthy" which she internalizes and then withdraws. In your example above, I don't believe she'll go back up if I hold at 5. She'll convince herself it's all her fault, that she's making me miserable, is unworthy, and just won't try. That's her pattern.
That said, I'm going to experiment. I slid a little last night, I gave her a hug before dinner which she didn't really reciprocate. In your example above I will hang out here at 5.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
