You are getting some great help and support from so many top posters. That's a great sign, because when those vets are focused on someone, it often leads to great breakthroughs (as it's a sign that there's hope and belief that you will get your "lightbulb" moment, soon).
So much to go back on in your threads and if anything appears to have been forgotten, it will likely come back in new posts, anyhow.
I did want to touch on this, quick:
Originally Posted By: Crazyville
I am interested to hear your feedback, to hear what I'm supposed to do to somehow offset H's fantasy.
Remember how I mentioned that men can be (read: ARE) dumb as stumps when it comes to women?
It's pretty simple. More often than not, men want what they are told (or more generally think) they can't have.
And those men who get what they were told they can't have? It's because they rose up and did what they needed to do.
A woman gets what she wants when she pretends she doesn't want it (him).
The trick is to be you in a way that he can't have you, while knowing in your heart that you want him and believe that he will do what it takes to have you, without compromising who he sincerely is, while you are planted firmly in being true to yourself and fully available to him, if he'd stop running around like his head was cut off.
IOW: It's not a game of tactics and manipulation. He can HAVE you, but NOT OWN you. It's almost an evolutionary thing that when a man finally stops chasing what he wants... he finally realizes he already has it, he just has to step up... and into it...
This will be explained better when you've progressed to a point where you are ready for this course of action.
