BF, sharing a joint account for a marriage is typically a good thing, it can foster openness, trust and cooperation. We never get into a M thinking this cr@p will happen.

You do need to do your research. I've had to do mine. Its not pretty, but you can only deal with reality if you know what it is.

Take care,


Me:45, W:45
S:16 D:13
M:22, T:25
Bomb: July 2010
Putting finances in order for "D"
Continue to live in same home-separate rooms