if she is violating the order...call her on it in court

and for God sakes

you said somewhere (I forgot to do the quote thing) that you didn't want to have to tell her that stuff again

newsflash

you don't HAVE to tell her that stuff

sometimes
we can filter ourselves and not tell someone everything that crosses through our hearts and minds

smile

really...it's OK to not tell her these things

back off for a bit

focus on being a parent