Antlers - I agree with the others. You have said the same thing to ex many times. She is NOT listening. If you need to say it for YOU - write it down - but don't send it. It does not help you situation.
And what have you done regarding getting more help for him?
She's involved hot n' heavy with other guy. He was up here all weekend per my daughter. She offered that info. when I picked her up today. We went out to eat, then I took her out in the country and let her drive my vehicle for 60 miles. There is no 'helping' this situation. It's done. I did it simply because I'm a decent man, at least now, and I wanted to express it. That's all. She might not even have read it. Anyway, I gotta continue to let go of all the negative emotions and feelings. Feel like I've done OK in 4 months time. It's like climbing up a shale mountain...3 steps forward and 1 step back. Overall there's forward progress though, even if there is an occasional step back.
Regarding my son, I don't know if he'll ever come home. No communication from him at all...not one word. I do forward everything I receive from the school and his counselor to her. My youngest daughter told me today that she doesn't think he needs counselling and that I should take him out. She also told me that she was very pissed at me when she found out I put him in counselling, and that's why she wrote me that awful letter back in December. It's a fuked up situation. The kids are running wild, especially daughter. She stays out very late with older young men, either roaming around, hanging out at their house, or driving around in their car. She sneaks her boyfriend in her house when her moms not there. And he stayed over there till 3:30 in the morning over the weekend while my ex was preoccupied with her company. Incidentally, her lawyer wrote into our divorce decree that "no member of the opposite sex that the parent is not married to shall be allowed to stay overnight in the home while the kids are present". Other guy comes up from out of state and stays overnight at her house for days at a time regularly while my kids are there.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
