7 Years in. Time to give up ?

[DavidA]

I have reconnected with her family for many reasons. Her parents have various medical issues and need help in many areas of their lives. We always had a great relationship and I felt crappy ignoring them because of the situation with my X.

I just avoid and redirect when she comes up in conversation. I am only there to help them out.

2 of 3 of her brothers have serious medical issues as well due to injury on the job and accidents. I have yet to make a solid presense in their lives but we are on good terms anyways. They have others with them daily helping them out so they don't really need me other than having a discerning ear now and then.

My XMIL said several times I didn't need to anything. My response was you can't always take. Sometimes you need to give back. That seems to have eased her guilt in accepting my charity.

I will not pretend to be someone I am not ease the concious or my xwaw. If she can't deal with it... To Bad.......