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Finding the paper with ILY on it has set me back a bit. Again, I don't know what it really means but it has me doubting myself again.


Why on earth? It was written by a irrational woman who had a weird dream. You don't even know who the ILY was intended. Forget it.

I personally agree with your counselor. I have thought from the beginning that your W has serious problems. At this point in the R, I feel you need to make a decision as to whether or not her problems are going to pull you under until you sink.

Why do you have so much fear of her moving to Dallas? I don't get it. Don't you realize that once she gets there and sees she doesn't have anyone to dish her bad behavior that she's going to try to drag you down again? You seem to be the only one she controls, so she will still try to do that as long as she can pick up a cell phone.

What did you say to your W when she did these outlandish things? Do you continue to just be passive and let her say and do whatever she feels toward you? How can she respect a man who will let a woman treat him so shabbily and do nothing? At what point do you start applying 180's? Maybe you have in some smaller areas, but it seems that you are not addressing the big things....like how she treats you. It just seems to me that you are doing the same as you did years ago when she began to beat you down. Has that been working for you?

Sorry, I think you are a nice man, but I get so frustrated with you. cry Maybe I just want you to throw her across your lap and give her a good spanking! (Bet that would be a 180!)

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!