DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 5)

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(((((( rick ))))))

if there is any positive in this.. it's that she initiated the talk.. and she is voicing what she thinks she needs. which seems like more than she has done in a while.

it takes a lot of courage to continue on this journey. i imagine it's scary. however.. we still don't know the outcome of this story.

by letting her go.. i don't think that means you are giving up on your M or your family. it's a very loving gesture to give her the space she feels she needs. in this past year, you have done a lot of work on yourself and changed for the better. you were able to do this in the face of adversity while continuing to provide for your family and being a solid foundation for your kids. unfortunately.. your wife wasn't able to do this. it doesn't mean she's a bad person. she's simply reacting differently (diversity is one of the beauties in human nature).

maybe being on her own will help.. maybe not. but it's not your decision to make. you have been accountable for your choices and actions, it's now her opportunity to be accountable for hers.

we seem to be in parallel relationships. i see a lot of my H in your W. i think the big dynamic that really differs though is that my kids are very little and so they are much needier and H can feel that. your kids are older.. and independent. your W may feel they just don't need her like they use to (which is obviously not true given S13's reactions).

it really suxx. but we're here with you.