Her comment that it is't so easy is it could have provided (could still provide) an opportunity to understand her better if you stop being defensive. People don't say things like that just to push your buttons, they say it from their frame of reference. She obviously felt at some point that she was working harder than you appreciated or understood. You might accept that she perceived things that way, even if you think you did understand and appreciate. She did not, or those words wouldn't have occurred to her.
I'm not saying mind read, I'm saying the opposite. Take a stab at understanding what she's saying and maybe even ask her about it in a non-defensive way.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
