She has expressed the "trapped" feeling before so that makes sense purgatory. We are supposed to speak about this evening when I get home from work to iron out a game plan for the next 7 days. I made a promise in the beginning to my W that I would put no barriers in place that would prevent her from being a mom. Now I feel like she would rather me say to her to just come back when and if she is ready on her own schedule. But unfortunately, there is a certain amount of planning necessary since our S is so young. I'm uncertain whether to tell her I can handle it (which I could if I knew that's what she wanted and then could set up an alternate scheudle) and she can participate when she wants or if I should set some expectations as you said with pickup from school, etc.
