Also, the internet is a good source of info. In wa state there are great govt. websites that really spell things out. I am trusting my h. he had EVERYTHING figured out like 2 days after he left, that the way he operates. But at the very end I will request a mediator to look over and see if fair. Mostly the spousal surrort part. He's not going to like it but I need to look out for myself. Like I said in wa it is pretty cut and dried. good luck bf.