H and i have exchanged a few txts this evening to discuss how kids will stay w/ my mom monday night (there is most likely going to be a teacher's strike for 3 days). then we discussed my nursing license and i asked if H got his security license (he had decided to get that in the last couple of weeks).
i probably should have just ended the conversation there but.. i asked if he was planning on switching over to security to which he replies he was thinking of getting a second job. now.. the wheels in my head are turning.. so i ask if he wants to talk about finances. he says.. sure.. it looks good.
next i say.. i am assuming you're thinking about a second job to pay for rent? because the person he is staying with is leaving sometime soon. going to new zealand. and H says.. yes.. rent is paid until end of april and he will probably be paying rent may onward. at which point i say.. i think we need to discuss child support then because if he gets his own place.. there really isn't a need for him to come back every second weekend and the kids will go to his place. (because really.. in the long term.. does he really think things will continue the way they have been?? i didn't say this part out loud). H just said.. ok. he hasn't looked for a place yet.. he just didn't have anywhere to go. i answered, i didn't mean to pressure him but i'm trying to figure things out for the kids and i. he has not yet answered back.
should i have not said anything? i'm so confused!! i'm thinking i need to say something because i don't want to be screwed financially! i have 2 kids i have to protect and care for! if H wants to get a second job and get his own place that will be his choice but i need to know the numbers i'm dealing with so i can make my choices.
i just sent him a txt asking if i upset him. no answer back. well.. nobody said this was going to be easy.
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
