DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 5)

[2thepoint]

I just read your post but honestly don't have it in me right now to provide a meaningful response. I'll post something tomorrow.

In the meantime, I think you need to really think about what it is going to mean for you to re-engage with your W again and how that will affect your longer term goals.

Also, I know you went semi-dark and there is fallout from that approach, but maybe you need to be more assertive in your detachment. You know, like set her completely free and see where she ends up. It won't be easy and I'm sure it will be quite frightening for both of you. It may also take several months for things to work themselves out. So, be prepared for that if it comes to it.

Have you given any thought to setting your W up in her own place (not sure if you can swing that financially) but that would be one way to really get your W to wake up to the reality of her sitch.

Just some random thoughts. I'll post more tomorrow.

Take care!