I think what you're going through is normal. Sometimes I find it easier to detach when H is more available to me and seems interested. It's like I have the luxury to detach when there's less of a need to. But as soon as H pulls away and makes movements to solidify the separation, then the old desperation and hurt return. I think the real test for me will be when I am so focused on my own life that H's actions -- good or bad -- do not affect me in such a profound way. It's a process to be sure.


M:37; H:37; M:10 years;T:13 years;no kids.
Bomb ("I love you, but don't feel things for you I should":1/08/12
Separated (H living with various friends:1/18/12
Separated (H rented his own apartment:3/4/12