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[25yearsmlc]

Good job Purg.

I'm a big believer in going dark or dim in 2 circumstances

1) if it's the only way to protect YOU from further pain/having less trauma/drama

and or

2) b/c it's your 180

but in your sitch the "positive only" attention from you is what you admit needs work and that;s what you are doing, imo.

SO even though usually we are supposed to pull back, I would not pull back in this regard'

but you can pull way back in EXPECTATIONS...so keep that up

and it's not the same as pursuit b/c that is attached to expectations.
I think you just seemed loving to him and as if you were putting

your kids and h's welfare and happiness over yours. In SOME situations that's a good idea.


Well done