CV, when I read you expressing your feelings and trying to be understood, it sure makes me think of myself. Our stitch is not the same but I can see myself in you (hope you won't be insulted). I really do understand how you feel about a lot of things in your stitch.

You really are strong to continue to stay on the board when you are so frustrated b/c you aren't getting what you are seeking. So much of your responses are actually you defending yourself, and trying to explain why you feel like you do. And, I can see myself when you try to tell what it is like living with your H. You may not receive the exact advice as I did, but I see a lot of the same thing happening.

I went through a very long stretch of time that I felt like some members were picking me apart to see what was wrong with me. Some would ask questions that I felt I'd have to take a college course before I knew how to answer. Truthfully, I did not know how to answer some things. I admire how well you write and can hold your own with whatever kind of post hits you.

In my case, I didn't see the point of a lot of what they were trying to do. I felt as if I were on trial and I was not being heard. That caused even more frustration. People thought I was mad, hard-hearted, and a few more things. I continued to try and tell them the negative things about my H, but I didn't feel that I received much help there. Part of that problem was b/c I was not in the right state of mind to receive some things I was told.

I think the bottom line was that I had to do one of two things. I either had to make the choice to accept him the way he is and to not expect him to make changes. The other choice was to leave.

Well of course, I wanted him to make changes! And, the more LBS's told me I was the one who needed to change, the more angry I became. So, as I've said before,I think I really understand how you feel.

It must be terrible living in a M for the sake of your child. My children were grown, but then I had grandchilden to consider. As one wise WAW

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!