Specifics, please! Can't afford telephone consult!

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Thanks cadet....the reminders here ease the pain of limbo in some weird way. It's like a hotline to therapist.

So, what to say if he asks why I didn't let him know? I think I was too defensive at lake and said "you didn't ask" to which he replied "I didn't think I had to." He said the other day, and has several times, so and so "could have asked me" and boys "could ask him" or "call him". Are these the things I am supposed to be truly listening to? Or is this more shame and blame about not being included or responsible for own relationships?

Thank you....