Suddenly Separated in VA -- need your help

[mimivac]

Bug, I basically couldn't hold it in any longer. I had a whole day planned with nice activities and work, but mid-way through I could feel my anger rising and rising. All my frustrations about my H were coming to the surface and I was tired of being so accommodating and nice, while he is getting a free pass to go out and live life without responsibility. I know, I know, not productive line of thought. Detachment, GAL, all went out the window and I called him with massive expectations and applied as much pressure as I could. I guess his impending apartment rental had rattled me a lot more than I thought. Just couldn't handle any of it today.

How in DBing does one handle the very real anger and hurt toward a WAS? How do you process those feelings while sticking to the goal of trying to save your M and be a better person? We are selling our second home right now because H says he never wanted it in the first place and that he doesn't need that kind of responsibility. This is the home that we dreamt about together during my cancer treatments as something we would give ourselves if I survived -- our dream place in the country. Now he's changing the story and it really hurts. I feel that I hardly know him now. I guess the whole house thing really triggered me today.

Sorry for rambling, but it felt good to ge it all out.

Mimi