You might want to start your own thread in NewComers and copy and paste your posts over there.
Sorry you are on moderation and the posts need to get approved.
If you click on your name you can hit "POSTS" and find all of your and maybe copy and paste them on the new thread in NEWCOMERS.
Keep reading and posting in smaller increments and it will help you get off of moderation.
It is quite inappropriate for your H to be treating your D4 that way, you may need legal help to protect her.
For the moment I would reassure her that you will love her no matter what is said or not, and that it is not important whether she keeps the secret or not, your LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL.
Unfortunately you can not control him or what he is doing.
