MLC or Borderline Personality Disorder.

[sleeper]

...understand the chaos.

C told me in one of my last individual sessions with him X has a "borderline personality." During our R she readily admitted to having specific issues like controlling, hypochondria, phobias, some from her past she had overcome, some from her present I observed but couldn't connect the dots . She could be the sweet little girl or the cold stone heartless b*tch. I have a photo I took of her on a heartless day wearing an oriental dress I titled, "Dragon Lady." I knew she had issues (so does she) but C's diagnosis of Borderline Personality identified her problem specifically.

When I went to the site (thank you 4myfamily) so many things clicked one at a time as I read them it was like standing in a field full of crickets at night. I've said her MLC (if that's what happened) manifested itself as if her issues had gone on steroids. Same bad stuff, just lots more of it.

The kids suffer the most in this. They'll comment from time to time that X is "stressed" and they don't want to upset her.

I also saw myself in what I read. I'm "the rescuer" in a relationship. I think OMH may be too. His X wife was bipolar. It makes perfect sense he was attracted to and married a borderline personality who was in crisis.

Yep, we didn't break em, we can't fix em and we need to just get a life. D*mn, there's that song again:

"Picking up the pieces of my broken, shattered dreams...."

Jim Croche