oh and just quick on the EA. I see that could actually be much more powerful in your "choice to be a WAS" than originally anticipated.
I thought I read that you got over it. Obviously, you are attached to a belief that your H would rather be with someone else, so you decided to leave FIRST. To be fair, I am not saying that you are being mean or bad. I am just saying that is how it can look to an outside observer.
Underlying pain and fear and your actions over the past 6 months, year, 4 years... could all revolve around that.
That may have been very helpful to know, earlier. It's OK that info is only coming out now or perhaps is just being put on the table because you are working through it and now feel comfortable putting it there.
Again, the solution is to grow. Become an even better person... woman... than you already are. Because even if your H does leave you for this EA, at least you can say he was a fool.
