We don't have to redo. We have to observe and adjust.
We say around here that there is very little that will tank an M right then and there, no if and or buts, done, done, done...
So a plan that didn't work well simply needs to be adjusted as necessary.
On jumping out of an airplane, are you saying that there is no way that you could ever trust someone to pack your chute?
There are many tens of thousands of people who DO trust someone to pack their chutes and come out successful after a jump.
If you make a choice to never jump, that is fine. You made a choice. Of course, you can always CHANGE that choice down the road. But the choice itself is never right or wrong.
Saving your M or becoming a woman only a fool would leave is your choice. Either choice is neither right nor wrong.
Choose, plan, act, observe, adjust.
Originally Posted By: Crazyville
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The real question may be: Why would you want to stay M to your H?
Vows, religions beliefs, convenience, ease for family and friends, structure for son, financial stability, etc. It's all I've got right now. If he's not contributing to (not responsible for) my happiness, I don't know how to have any reason beyond that.
That was great! That really, really was. I am glad you have offered other reasons that just your S.
With or without the reasons and it IS ok to have reasons, it is about the choice. And you are making that choice...
are you...? Like really, really...?
Then it takes me back to the question about the time. How long do you want to be in planning mode?
Just make a choice. One week...? One month...?
Just make a choice. Making the choice ups the urgency and the intention and you responsibly put yourself into a position to MOVE yourself in a direction.
As of right now, I am gone for the weekend and will not be back until late sunday at the earliest.
