I would think you would have to stop seeing OM. You're going to lose the attraction for you husband the more time you spend with the OM. It's not fair to you or him (OM). Make a decision, and stick to it. We are strong women, right?? Life is too short. If you make a plan and stick to it, by filing for divorce, it puts the ball in his court and he has to fight for you. And if he doesn't, who wants a man like that? You seem to have done your fair share of fighting. How long do you want to fight? It's exhausting.
