I think the real irony is that the level of intimacy will go back to what it was before the bomb because that's where things naturally stabilized last time.
Although W says things are so much better now because of what I've done / am doing, the reality is that she doesn't really want that -- the biggest change is that her perspective on the M is different. I guess she didn't feel valued or worthy before, maybe she does now, and that's all she needs -- that underlying knowledge but without necessarily ongoing demonstration.
Definitely interesting to look at what's happened in the rearview. Not so fun when you're in it.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015