I believe I can live in the present, but I don't think it's possible to live as if there is no history.
I completely understand that. In truth, I believe that's more of a metaphor than a reality. In the same token, it is our pattern of going back and referring to the negative history that holds us back because we make reasons for why it won't be better in the future.
Originally Posted By: Crazyville
For example, I can accept the fact that I currently have a job I'm dissatisfied with, and make plans to get a better job. But I can't just enter the job market without a resume, whether I like what my resume says or not. It is what it is. I can go to school, get additional training, etc., but that only changes my resume going forward, not the past.
Again, this is a great metaphor. And also, having NO history, is still a history.
Employer: Do you have experience and/or training
Employee: Stop bringing up the past
SBT would say, get the training or present relevantly transferable skills. Even in that frame, there is a sense of the past in SBT.
With SBT the FOCUS is on the present, but it does not negate the past. The past is still a consideration.
Observe results: That's bringing up the past...
Focusing on SBT as not focusing on the past is really just the reflection of a past pattern and making an excuse for not DOING SBT.
Originally Posted By: Crazyville
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SBT says, plan, do, observe results, adjust as necessary...
It can be observed that you are not getting into the DO phase...
So observing the results would suggest you are not committed to SBT...
It only means I'm still in the planning stage because I don't know what to do, not that I'm not committed to SBT.
That is both honest AND fair.
SBT is done from a position of responsible and it also is best done from a sense of urgency.
If there is no urgency, then the problem is either not that bad or the problem has changed.
If you are feeling no sense of urgency to work on your M, then the problem may not be solving the M. The problem may be simply trying to survive the next 8 years.
I believe and understand that you cannot give an answer of whether you want to save your M. I believe that is not the problem to solve, as you currently present yourself and your motivations.
I believe the problem to solve is helping you to decide whether you DO or DO NOT want to save your M.
