W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore-P2

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Really good conversation and yes, you really have to take it very very slow. Take a look at Crimsons thread for some real time insight into the dynamics at play.

"We went back and forth a little more about what my S was done which was fun and end the conversation. She then texted me later and asked if I would email her some of the books I have read and I said sure. She then chatted with me more about what our S was doing."

Be careful about which books you share. If she sees things that cause her to believe you are using tactics to manipulate her it will backfire big time. Just be careful.

"I don't know what to think and I hope it is not a knee jerk reaction from the death in the family but I will work on it."

It may very well be. Life is short and when tragedies happen, people tend to pause and reevaluate their choices.

"This has been a learning experience like no other. I will stay cool, calm, and collective. Time to take it slow and not push at all."

Good for you. This is a delicate dance. You've been practicing and now it is showtime!

Best of luck to you!