I do understand, 2TP, and I do appreciate the time people have put into this. I also COMPLETELY understand that I am in at least a somewhat unique situation for this board. A lot of the advice has been very helpful, or at minimum something that I can hear and file away for later. But I do have a really hard time hearing that I should be telling my H, "And, btw, it really turns me on when you fix stuff for me" right now, for example, when I have a hard time even being in the same room with him. And being scolded for having all the characteristics of a WAS, when that's exactly what I recognize myself and claim to be, is unhelpful at best.
I know my limitations. I'm just trying to bring it back to center.
