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[25yearsmlc]

your response about his Bday &him not feeling obligated and then the upbeat message about breakfast, was friggin' perfect...His comment was annoying but you deflected so well.

So be easy on yourself girl, I couldn't have done better WITH planning...you did that off the cuff!!

Not to get negative/Debbie Downer, but are we now assuming his r with XBFF is on again?

Just curious...didn't expect it to end so abruptly anyhow, and frankly I think it needs to expire on its own for YOU to feel safe enough to move forward with him someday. Must sukk to be the GD...and where is the GD's dad? And the whole military aspect faded out or what?

I think your h's time away in 'Ghanistan will probably be a real opportunity for you to DB uber well.

And HIS/Your kids sending care packages (with a scented note or two from u??)
won't hurt. Same for Skype--& of course Look GREAT when you are "connecting" them.

Not true pursuit to say "you sure are missed here" imo. But not now!

That's for later, when we'll enter the "Purg DB4 Deployments Campaign"...

btw, did I tell you my h is getting deployed this summer? He's in the Reserves and no, we did NOT see this coming. (Financially it's bad news for us since h's income is much higher in civilian/private practice, and our home loan was based on his private practice income level--oh well. If he comes home in one piece that's the main thing. But it'd be nice NOT to lose our house. I need to up my work hours big time now...ANYHOW...) But I Digress...


Gee, maybe our h's will be together...um, hmm, I can't decide if that's gross or cool.

Is your guy Army or Navy? Mine is Army.

oh AND one other thing...worst case scenario (Not likely, but if your mind wanders negatively,)

your h had an affair before, or long ago...

to me, that does NOT mean he wasn't also working on the m,

OR hoping things would improve with your m. Most spouses having A's check it out before they bail on the m.

They will take as little risk as possible. Selfish? Of course.

But my point is, I think all of that "apparent effort" working on the m, was sincere on his end. You're the mother of his children and he loves those boys.

Of course life would be way easier if you two could work this out. Maybe when he's away, that will hit him more. He'll have the perspective of what fathers mean to their sons, what being apart is REALLY like....that the boys deserve that chance as a family.

How was your h last time he deployed? How were YOU? What will your 180s be when he's gone?

I swear my h gets more romantic, kinder and more patient with everyone when he's gone...(which does not go unnoticed by my teenage daughter.) Oh well.

((( )))