I'm starting to feel calm again. And I've realized that I can be stronger and be doing better at this.
The great thing about how I've sent her an email every couple of days for the last few months is that I can stop and she'll notice right away. It's a place I can demonstrate change and willingness to change.
And for the next month, I will work really hard on not trying to change her mind. I don't know if I know how to have an R-conversation with her without asking leading questions or tugging on her emotions.
I have to accept that in her own limited way, she is giving us time to get better. So, if we have two months, I'll work on giving space as much as possible for two months. I'll learn how to cook. I'll put my love and effort into the house our children live in and give my kids as close to 100% dad as we can manage.
- All for the kids - Me:34, W:35 M:7, T:13 S6, D3 + my D15 from previous marriage July 2011 "I think I need a separation" W filed D September Currently living apart - she has the house, I rent a room