thanks for the response. I have not really been focusing on him, when this started in Oct i took what he said to heart and he even commented that he could see the changes in me and he had never seen someone do a complete 360 and he hoped the changes were for me, not him and would continue despite the situtation. I have looked at me and how i treated his children over the years and started on rebuilding those relationships to some degree of success, it is a work in progress and i continue. It is hard for me to GAL, becuase i have a 1 yr old grandchild i am responsible for, a 19 yr old that has a life and a 15 yr old that i am trying to enable to continue on without really being affected. that said, i have started to work on projects around the house such as cleaning things out that should have been done some time ago - this is keeping me busy to some extent. i have let him do the contacting, but it appears he feels the need to contact me weekly or every few days - again it is hard to detatch when they continue to contact. in some ways i feel as though i am now the other woman becuase he only contacts me or our daughter when he is at work - not when he is around ow. anyway, just trying to make it one day at a time, reading the other stories, praying several times a day and attending church regularly helps but not much. i suppose as time goes by it may get easier, but i am trying:)
