Just a few things to add that have come to mind what my "wife" mentiond when we were talking, and they maybe give people hope in what they are doing.

She told me he changes in how I am are massive, and she loves how I have changed.

She said I have gone from being the last person she would want to look after our children, when I was drinking, to the ONLY person she would want to look after them, she told me how I care for them, have fun with them, and how much they love me are unbelievable.

She mentioned how I don't lose my temper anymore, yes I may get upset with things, but I don't blow up anymore, and she feels totally comfortable talking to me about anything.

I cook, I clean, and I take care of my house, again, this was an issue when we were together, I did little around the house, but now I do everything.

These maybe small things to most people, but she has noticed the change, it has taken her a long time to tell me this though, so please don't give up working on you and the changes you are making, they have to be for you, but your "spouse" will see them, you just have to mean them,and make them part of you, not just a way of getting them back.

My big issue and the reason for the split was my drinking, but again she has told me she is very proud of what I've done, and what I am doing.

Don't give up guys if you really want them back, or are just unhappy with how your life is, you can make things better for you!!