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[ces67]

I think it goes back to personal motives. Is the action to be loving and who we want to be or is it to be compliant expecting a response or reaction, i.e. putting expectations on someone else?

Purg - you've got to answer that question for yourself. Each of us do.

I go back to King David a lot. He once said (paraphrasing) God doesn't want our sacrifices, he wants our hearts. Its not so much the action but the motive behind the action that counts.

The action may help or it may not, but ultimately, if it doesn't move your own heart to a better place, does it really accomplish anything?

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