i'm not really sure where your thought process is at the moment. IMHO.. i think you should STFU (to put it bluntly) until you get your emotions in check.
the kids are just that.. kids. don't expect them to step up or call.. it's not their responsibility.
i'm sorry to say this.. but the verbal spats you have is still abusive to a degree. why can't a trophy wife have kids? all i would hear is that i wasn't pretty enough. the comment about her being special but that there were also many other woman that were special really bites. and then the comment about keeping things in her pants..
i can understand that you feel she can not be trusted again.. but just from her standpoint.. i would also be wondering if you could be as well (just seeing the other side)
maybe this will give you some insight.. i don't speak for all women but i will speak for myself..
as a mom, if H and i end up getting D and i start a new relationship.. my kids will always.. ALWAYS.. be my number one priority. how they are treated.. how they are coping.. ALWAYS! for me, i could sacrifice some time and prioritize my M because H is the father of my children (and a strong relationship w/ him would be a positive for them). however, with a new person, my kids are my heart and soul and i would not sacrifice them for that person because i have that obligation to them. i'm not saying i would allow them to be disrespectful or treat him badly.. just that if i had to choose to be w/ my kids or a new person, it will be my kids.
just trying to give you a different perspective.
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
