For the most part the niceness continues. We're still on for our conversation a counselor tomorrow morning about telling the kids. Got some great advice from my DB coach on that. I highly recommend them in addition to the support you get here. They are extremely good at sifting through your situation, lining out your options, helping to pick the right one for your situation.
After Monday's "intenseness", she is being pretty nice. Though yesterday afternoon handed me a note with the names of the grade schools she plans on taking the kids to. So one thing those conversations do, and the reason I think I need to stop having them, is that I think it hardens her resolve to push forward.
I think she's believes we're coming away from tomorrows talk with a strict plan and timeline for telling the kids very soon. I'm hoping that is not the case as their are still too many unanswered questions - where they will live for example is a big one.
It appears she has a plan, and is trying to check off all the boxes and when there is anything i might do or say that is contrary to her plan, she essentially ignores it and attempts to move ahead anyway - like giving me the note about the schools.
She plans to take them away for St. Paddy's day weekend, w/o me of course, and the few times we discussed I said i'm fine with it if you can tell me what we're supposed to tell the kids.
So, frustrating when it seems she has the expectation that i'm in complete cooperation and that I may have to lie to the kids for her benefit. When largely I think she just want to go party with her boyfriend while her mom watches the kids. Arrgh.
