I've been good at other-validated intimacy (listening, spending time together, compromise). I've been a turtle when it comes to conflict, thinking that conflict is a sign that's something is wrong with the R and me--that I've failed once again. This book is giving me a perspective to manage conflict in a different way (holding onto and revealing myself).
Careful . . . you'll go blind that way.
Seriously, I'm glad to see that you're learning this:
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I've also learned that avoiding conflict, walking on eggshells, pacifying my W, or giving in doesn't work either.
