Thanks for the advice guys. Backsliding is surprisingly easy to do! But what worries me is w becomes obssessed with her decisions (she is somewhat ocd) so I'm afraid that no matter how ill advised her decision is she is so stubborn that she won't back down until after the ramifications hit (we have an $18k mistake in the garage - I forgot to mention her financial mistakes). So I think I have a very tough road ahead and I'm trying to memorize the 37 steps! Positive signs: w actually nagged me a few times (she hasn't done that in a while and according to Michelle this is a good sign). She mentioned she is unhappy again. I told her I understand and that we all feel unhappy sometimes...I was trying not to negate her feelings but empathize with her.
