Thank you all for your feedback. I *do* feel good that I laid it all out on the table, that way I don't have to wonder 'what if'. I'm not going to bring it up again, and just pray that it planted a seed.... Only time will tell.
Bug- I was my GD that said she felt guilty. I'm not exactly why, but it's probably something to do with her loyalty to her mom. It was interesting that she didn't seem uncomfortable with my H expressing feelings for her mom
Today: Didn't hear anything from H all day. He showed up at the hoise after work, without notifying me. I didn't feel the need to correct him, probably out of fear that it would send him running away. He played a video game with S6 for almost an hour, while I stayed upstairs and did chores.
When he was leaving, S6 asked him why he had to leave all the time and why couldn't he just sleep at our house. [I was in the kitchen with the water running to try and drown out the conversation]. I couldn't hear what H was telling him, but he stayed a few more minutes, and then left. I can't imagine that made him feel good.
This was the first time S6 has acknowledged the sitch, and he expressed sadness. The fact that H couldn't stay simply b/c S6 asked him to- is a strong reminder of just how selfish the WAS can be. I mean, I understand why he couldn't stay if *I* asked him, but his *son* asked him to stay- and he still said no.
This was the pain I never wanted to experience: seeing my son in pain from his dad's 'rejection'. I don't want to have "the talk" with him.
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
