I would not be able to live with a decision that put 800 miles between him and W. Would that make me a MAN? Putting my interest before his?
Pulp I am going to ask that you be kind to yourself and look at this a different way.
It is NOT your fault or responsibility that your W brought you to a town away from the rest of your family causing you to give up your job and then start a relationship with another man.
I would say that you deciding to move back home with your son was due to her choice and the responsibility lies directly on her.
She has lied to you, not been truthful, threatened to leave and is carrying on an active Affair <---- it is going on no matter whether physical or just emotional and no matter what she chooses to admit.
I guess the question for you is:
If your M does not survive will you want to stay where you are regardless?
If not
I would talk to an attorney to know what your options and rights are to move you and your son home.
Your W chose this. NOT YOU. She is deciding to break up your family NOT YOU.
Your choice is to do the right thing for you and your son.
Only you can answer that question.
IF she wants to repair the M then she will see her part in this and respect you for the choice you made.
If not then at least you made a decision that is the best for you and your son.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
